EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

I thought I first should start off by a apologising for not writing last week. My life at the moment has just been crazy and honestly I haven't been in the best writing mood. But I hope you have had an amazing week and that you took each day with great stride.

A lot has happen this week for me, things that where good and other things that weren't so good. It was the of learning and reconfirming my belief that everything happens for a reason. No matter how painful or ordinary the situation was it had to happened for some reason, if for learning or reconfirming, it was meant to happen. There was many situations this week with not only becoming OK with where my body was at illness wise, but also coming to terms with a situation and relationship I had had.

At the start of the week I was so lost with everything that was happening, the progress I had been making was starting to come crashing down. We found out that physically my body was still doing its old pattern of not coping, and my adrenals were just basically shot. I didn't take the news so well and I just became more frustrated and stressed.

Then in the process of all this a situation that I had had rose to a for front, and people instantly jumped to conclusions on the matter. People started judging from left right and centre and I had no idea how it had happened. This is where I would like to make my point and something I would like you to try in your daily life.

Everyone is going through their own journey, battles and learnings. We all have our ways of coping and there is always a reason for what we are doing, no matter how much we say there is no reason. 

There is always a reason for why that girl parties to much, or sleeps around. There is a reason for why that guy is angry and a real jerk. There is a reason why that guy cheated on that girl. There is reason for why that guy or girl is so serious. There is a reason for why that girl wears makeup. There is a reason for everything but we instantly make up our own conclusions, judgements and labels on the matter.

But what would happen if we took a step back and thought you know what there is a reason for why this happened or is happening. Lets take the situation of why she sleeps around so much, there is so many reasons for why this can be happening, ones that you wouldn't instantly consider. She could just feel really lonely and likes the attention. She could be really self-conscious and wanting to feel wanted. She could be dealing with so many things at home and within herself, that she just wants to escape. She also just could not know what is right or wrong, because thats just what people around her do.

Do you see that when you take the step back you start to see that there is a lot more happening in this situation, then your judgement of just saying she's a slut or whatever you would call her. Yes most of time we instantly want to judge the matter if it is our business or not. But what if you did take that step back? Would you judge the situation the same way? This is such a little thing but can make the biggest difference, and honestly save someone a lot of suffering. This doesn't make the situation nor right nor wrong, it just is what it is.

So this week I had to take a step back from my life and everything that was happening, and it did help quite a lot. Yes, I have to also admit yoga helped too but taking that little step back made a huge difference. I started to feel a sense of peace about everything that had happened, and was at peace with the situation I had with another person. So I ask you now where are you doing this in your life, where you are making the judgements? Could you perhaps just take a step back? If you were to take the step back would it change how you see the situation? But also just remember no matter what, its nor right, nor wrong, it just is what it is. 

I hope you enjoyed this piece, and that you do apply this simple but life altering technique.

Keep smiling

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

Ps. Sorry if there was any errors :)

VALENTINES DAY, LONELY NO MORE

As Valentines days draws near and peoples hopes come true I want to remind the lonely ones that your dreams can come true too.

The people that know me well, know whenever there is something to celebrate I always want to do it with a bang. So as Valentines day is only six days away I utterly exited to celebrate. Though I have no loved one (cough. cough Boyfriend) I am surrounded by people I love and that is who I'm going to celebrate with, and share my love. Yes originally Valentines day is know as a day to consummate, share and have a reason to buy roses, chocolate, rings, have sex and whatever others do on Valentines day. But it is also a day and a reason out of all the other 364 days in a year to share love and love others.

A thing my friend said is that she didn't want to celebrate it or feel the need to because it just in her mind stated that she was a lone and not with anyone. I know that this is probably also the case for many, many others. But have no fear I have a reminder for you that you also have friends who probably are in the same boat or that you can celebrate with, and if you feel like you have no friends then you have family.

So why not make a day of it buy chocolate and share with friends, have your own dance party, buy yourself roses, remind your friends and loved ones how much you appreciate and love them. Don't make it a day to pity yourself for being alone, have fun with it and share the love around, because everyone always needs some loving in their life.

So you may be wondering what I'm doing on this Friday coming, well I have school but I plan to remind all my friends how much I appreciate them and love them, have a lunch time filled with chocolate and lollies. Then go see a movie with a few friends and just have an amazing time.

So what are you going to do? Are you going to sit at home, stuff your face with chocolate and pity yourself for not having a valentine, which I have to say is that persons loss. Or are you going to go and have a great time, with your boyfriend/girlfriend, friends, family or even yourself? Its up to you how you spend your time. You only have so many hours, days, weeks in a year and in your life time and wouldn't you want to spend everyday filled to the max with amazing goodness? So my last reminder  to you is to be open to the possibilities of all the things that this day could hold and just share the love.

Keep Smiling

Till next time

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

THE WEEK OF CHANGES (Warning it is long)

I wanted to dedicate this blog to the people that have been my life and are no longer, and the others that still are. People around us are the ones who shape us, they can change your life in the greatest way or the worst, but they are still there in your life for a reason, no matter what the circumstance is.

This week has been a life changing week for me in so many ways. Not only did I start Grade 11 but I also let go of two significant relationships in my life, made some hard life changing decisions and finally learnt to love accept myself for who I am through the whole process.

At the start of the week I was defiantly not in the best place mindset wise or friend wise. I had come to the point were I had to let two of my friends go in my life, and at first I was confused and in denial. These two relationships were very significant in my life and for a long time I had been holding onto them for dear life. But it came to the point were the friendship wasn't benefiting both parties and I had to accept the fact that I just needed to let it go. It wasn't easy but you probably have experienced something similar in your life so far, as many others do.

I know lately I have been writing a lot about acceptance and accepting through love, and thats because it is such a huge lesson that we all go through and one that I had been trying to understand  for a long time. So you may be wondering how did I come to the fact of actually expecting myself fully to the point were I'm writing about it. Well thats is a interesting story...

My friend said something to me while she was expressing how she was feeling and that was that I was selfish and that I put everything onto others and my friends. If its true or not thats besides the point. But I didn't take it as her being mean or anything, because that wasn't her fault she was just expressing how she was feeling. But the thing is that the negative side of my subconscious grabbed onto to these words expressed and sent me into a downward spiral of negative self talk. I kept saying to myself, how could I be so selfish and do this to my friends then I went onto saying that I'm a bad friend, I'm selfish, I feel so guilty, I can't believe I'm putting my friends through all this, etc... But the thing is that wasn't her fault at all thats just how I handled it and took it on.

But I think if it weren't for her saying those things then I wouldn't have come to the point of acceptance about myself that I have. Yeah sure she maybe could have said it a little nicer or differently, but everything happens for a reason and its ok.

So anyway I came to a point after crying, hysteria/delusion and then sleep, that I finally decided that who am is ok, and what others think about me is none of my business.  Seems simple when I write it but I didn't just wake up and think oh I accept who I am. I had been told for years how to accept myself, this week though one of my mentors told a simple enough line about just being ok with who you are.

I think how I fully took on what he said was because I had been developing and had started to become better, and was ready to move forward that I really heard the message this time. It was almost like a veil was just lifted and that I finally was able to see for the first time.

I didn't care what my body looked like, I just knew I needed to improve for myself. Thinking what people think about me is now none of my business. Going through what I went through is now ok because I far better off then if I didn't go through it.

I can't fully explain how I feel in words, but what this proves is that from every situation, moment, circumstance something comes from it. Also at the start of the week I was fully hating myself and thinking that I couldn't live another day with feeling lonely and not wanted, but now I feel better then I have ever felt. It's amazing how a single moment, day, week, month can totally change your life around.

I know this blog is long and if you have made it to this sentence then thank you for reading and putting in the time to read my blog. If your a friend of mine or no longer a friend, or whatever you have been in my life I want to thank you because every single time you are in my life you are adding, shaping me and I'm also learning. If you just a reader and don't know me then please know how much I appreciate you reading this. My mission in life is to help people, it may be a little hard sometimes or  some people may have their opinions, but even if just writing my advice and experiences and you take something from it that helps you that would be amazing.


I hope you enjoyed this blog

Till next time

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes  

PS. I really want to start doing some fun blogs so if you have any ideas please let me know :) 

Accepting in the forgiveness of love.

I started a blog post today wanting to talk about how much my friendships suck and how by writing about it  I'm trying to accept my past and how much I hurt from it.

But instead I'm sitting here eating chocolate and listening to the sweet vocals of Gavin DeGraw blast through the speakers of my computer and I'm thinking how can I be listening to such a magical voice  that oozes love and talk about hate.  So I'm not going to try and accept this situation because sometimes accepting a situation just can't be done. So I'm going to address this situation with love.  This blog post today I'm writing as a way of healing, for myself to move forward and let the past go. Sometimes we have to let the past go to let the new history be written and I choose to do that but with love. 


So for my friends that turned into my bullies I forgive you with love and fully choose to love you for all that you are.

For all the people that said I was crazy, weird, fat, ugly, brace face, a witch, a depressed freak, stupid or just not worth it I choose to forgive you with love and accept you for you.

For my friend that doesn't want to return my messages or talk to me and who broke my trust I forgive you with love and accept you for all that you are.

For my friend that choose her and didn't see me for me I forgive you with love and accept you for all that you are.

For the people that don't even see me or care I forgive you with love and fully choose to love you for all that you are.

But most importantly I forgive myself for giving up and not fighting, for the guilt, the suffering, the self hatred and for all that I hold onto. I forgive myself with love and accept myself for all that I am and who I will be one day.

This is a very hard thing to do and as I'm writing this I'm having a inner battle with myself but at the same time I'm letting it go. Nothing that is negative can withstand love and the thing is we all go through our trials in life and sometimes accepting a situation can't be done by just trying to accept it, so try with love. 

I hope you all have a joy filled day

Till next time

XOXO

The Girl With Red Shoes 

THE ACCEPTANCE OF LETTING GO

“By letting it go it all gets done.  The world is won by those who let it go.  But when you try and try.  The world is beyond the winning.”  –Lao Tzu  

In my life at the moment I'm faced with the fact of  accepting situations that I really rather not even have to deal with. Though I rather not have to deal with them, I am faced with the truth that I have to and become at a state of grace with them. 

For those who do not know what a state of grace is, it is when you accept the situation fully and when it no longer has an effect or emotion attached to the situation. 

You see with how my body and mind works is when I'm battling with a circumstance that is needing accepting, clearing or needs to be changed. My body shows the complication in an ache, pain or in sickness. Everyone has this to an degree without knowing it, but my body seems to react a lot easier, and excels the situation. 

So what am I having to accept at the moment? Well...

• I'm having to accept that my body has been for over 2 years battling with fatigue and how I have been waking up tired mostly everyday for over 3 years. 
• How I spent 2 years mostly in my bed, and I how in my mind I feel like I'm losing time and I wasted my teenage years. 
• How I can't even go to a Yoga class with out feeling tired, and its yoga! a place that should spiritually and physically energise and relax you. 
• I also can barely hang out with my friends or organise a day to hang out with them because I don' know how I'm going to feel. 
• How my iron and hormones are unbalanced that I'm putting on weight and have pimples, even though I'm eating right and trying to do some exercise, though it makes me tired. 
• How my best friend is across on the other side of the world and I barely get to talk to her, and how I miss her everyday. 
• How I don't want be in this body anymore or in pain. 
• That school starts in 9 days and I want to start  the year off well and energised, but at the moment I don't feel the best. 

So right now at this point in my life I'm angry, frustrated and hurt, and it's honestly not helping me one single bit. Yes I' am so over it that at most times I just want to scream and shout for it to end. But being constantly angry and frustrated at it doesn't help. Because you are allowed to feel all those emotions, if your friend died of course you would be upset and you are allowed to grieve but there comes a point where you can't grieve anymore because you get caught up in it and it takes over so you can't move on. 

I don't have the answers for how to accept a situation just yet, I'm searching for them and with the help of  my mentor I'm slowly finding my way. But something that my mentor taught me with was when your caught up in a situation take a  step back mentally from your body and if you were your own coach or best friend what would you say to yourself? As an example,  everything is going to be ok. This too shall pass. Just let the anger go. What is a positive thing that happened today? What has this taught you? 

Ask yourself some of these questions and remember to be your best friend, because at the end of the day you are the only person you have. 

Also remember the key to change is to let go of fear, and accept what you can't change and change what you can't accept. 

 Till next time 

xoxo 

The Girl With Red Shoes 

I DARE YOU!

I want to ask you to do something, not for me but for yourself. Lets just say I dare you! 

I dare you to wake up tomorrow in anticipation that something GREAT is going to happen. 

It seems that a secret epidemic, that most people don't think of, is the topic around what people perceive of the day a head of them. Most people wake up hating or dreading what the day is going to hold, or going to sleep and saying life sucks and they hate it. This actually causes a lot of undercover problems in life then you would think. 

How many times have you woken up or gone to sleep saying....

"I don't want to got to school."

"I don't want to go to work."

"School sucks and I wish I didn't have to go."

"I hate this person, they ruin my life and I don't want to see them at all." 

"Life is just too hard."

"I'm never going to be great, I suck." 

and so forth...

ITS SIMPLE! If you are starting of the day with negativity then you are only going to let negative things happen. Thats how depression works and normal life situations. You get into a pattern, a cycle of negative talk and your life becomes, in more words then one, Crap. 

So think of this as a science experiment or a dare, and you know with a dare you always have to do it. 

So... I dare you to wake up tomorrow in anticipation that something GREAT is going to happen.

Just see what happens, you never know until you try. 

Till next time

xoxo

The Girl With Red Shoes 

P.S Keep wearing your red shoes of confidence :)

IS IT ALL FAKE?

This is a topic that was brought up by a friend of mine and it is something that I have dealt a lot with when I was finding my way out of my depression, and I also believe its something that we all go through at one point or another.


You hear adults talking a lot about it, saying when you're a teenager you are trying to find who you are, but I honestly think you never fully know who, or what you are. Yes you know you're a human being, but there is always the questions of what do I believe in? What should I be doing? Who am I? Am I doing the right thing in life, and so forth. This is where sometimes we get caught up in an act of who we think we should be, then who we actually are.

A thing my friend kept saying is, I don't know who I am anymore, no one will ever know me, I just don't know who I am. This is because she had been acting for such a long time, trying to be who she thought everyone would like, that she became blind and confused and was not able to remember what was reality and what was fake.

This happened with me. I had lived in such a dark mindset that I didn't know in a way what happiness was like, I only knew from what I had read, or who my old self was and other things like this. That sounds really heavy, but I think we all do have these moments, where we ask ourselves all the who/what/why questions, and that is OK.

So now you may be thinking whats the point to me writing about this. I'm no expert and even if it's just for my friend reading this, or only 5 other people reading this, I at least thought I should discuss it. But I also want to try and give you some advice or maybe a solution that will help you. I don't fully know how I got out of all my confusion, but I do know a few things that helped me, and if these don't work for you or you don't want to do them, then at least you had some awareness that you're not the only one. So...

1. Firstly, make a list of all the things you love/enjoy/like (These can be anything or something you like to do, there is no limits, this is only for you to see).
2. Make a list of positive attributes about yourself, what you like about yourself not what others do. (minimum 10 and there is no max, its harder then it sounds :) 
3. Think back to the last memory you can when you really felt like yourself. This may be recent, a while ago, or maybe you can't even remember and thats OK. 
4. Finally change the self talk. For example instead of saying, "I don't know who I am anymore." Say "I fully understand who I am and I appreciate myself." This may sound stupid and I thought it was completely stupid and a waste of time once a upon a time. But it does work, you just have to do it. 

So this is your choice, you can either choose to do 1 or even all the activities I suggested. Or you can do none and not even worry about it and forget about this all in under 5 minutes. But where would that get you? Even if this don't-know-who-I-am thing isn't something that's your problem or something that you have never faced before, these activities do help in general and give you just a little more clarity, and who doesn't want that? 

So its your choice :) 

Till next time 

XOXO

The Girl With Red Shoes 

THE ACCOMPLISHMENTS OF 2013

Wow! Its nearly about to be another end to another year, and what a year it has been. I haven't written a bog post for about over a year now and I thought what better time then ever to start back up. 

This year for me has been filled with a lot of things that I never expected to happen and other things that I wanted to have achieved but didn't. In the middle of this year I was already unhappy with how it was going, I expected to be further along with my recovery, my relationships and my schooling. I was getting frustrated and feeling unaccomplished, but with the help of my friend and mentor I started to slowly realise I had been making quiet a bit of great change. 

You see sometimes our greatest accomplishments are the ones that are so small, that are the little steps towards our awakening to our success. Its like looking in the mirror and trying to see if you have lost weight, though the scales have said you have lost five kilos, in the mirror all you see is the same you. But when you compare a photo taken before you lost the weight, and then you look at yourself now, you see how big of change you have made. So thats what I had to do, I looked where I been and slowly but surely saw I had been making progress.  Some of those things were:

• Last year I missed 201 days of school, this year I missed 80. 
• I mentally and emotionally released a lot of emotional turmoil that I had held onto for a long time, that was in fact making me sick.
• I was keeping an above C average even though I was only going to maybe 2-1 maths class a week. But before when I was at school full time I was getting D's to C+'s, and I had gotten a B on two maths test this year.
• I had started reading Personal development books which I refused to read last year and in the past.
• I let go of an unstable and unhealthy relationship in my life. 
• I finally started to love myself again and I can't remember the last time I did that.
• I found my best friend, who I had been searching for, for a very long time.
• I started exercising again, joining Pilates and doing the Insanity workout DVD program (which yes, is insane). 
• I started affirmations.

I have accomplished so many things this year, and yeah some seem very small or not the most amazing things to be proud of, but when you see that you have at least accomplished something it makes you feel great and confident. I could easily say, which I have many times before, that its not good enough, that I should have done more. But honestly where would that get me? I would have been more miserable and feeling unaccomplished, that then leads to negative self talk and going further backwards. So ask yourself what have you accomplished or made progress on this year. It may be small or maybe even only one thing, (which I don't believe it will be). But give yourself credit and be proud of the work and progress you have made, because you have done amazing job. So happy new year to you and what a year 2014 will be. 

So what do you need to do before the clock strikes 12. 

• Write a list of all the things you have accomplished this year.
• Do your 2014 goals/ positive affirmations/ bucket list (Whatever you like to do, but set something to try and achieve, and focus on)
• Have a random dance session and let loose to celebrate the amazing year of 2013.
• Do a gratitude list, of all the things you are thankful for.
• Finally, tell yourself thank you, and that your proud of how far you have come.

Happy New Year and Till next time 

Xoxo

The Girl With Red Shoes 

Anger... Its fun

You need your red shoes for that attitude and fun 

Anger is good for us...

I know you might be thinking, that I have gone a little crazy. Maybe I have, but I don't think so.

You see there are always those people out there today who, lets just call them the haters, who will stop at nothing but the destruction of others. These haters are the ones who make us feel the need to criticise ourselves, and believe we're not worthy. I know I said in my last blog that we are the ones who have to be the bigger man and that's true, but we still can have fun while doing it.

So, your properly wondering how anger comes into this.

Well, there's two states of anger, there's the one where we don't think rationally and act out, which I understand is sometimes very hard to control.

The other state is where we be the "bigger man." You see, being the bigger man doesn't mean we ignore it, tolerate it or don't get angry over it. It means, we do it in a more civilised manner. Yes, I did say civilised.

Being civilised in this manner means we can defiantly still be angry, but do it without the use of our hands, or the person ever finding out and you being made the bad guy.

 I have a few suggestions of what I have been doing in past and lately:

1. Listen to some up beat, loud, rock type music or ones about being angry and let that frustration out
2. Imagine a long dark hole, and imagine you plonk (maybe throw) them in there, and think their not worth your time, so you sill the hole shut...
3. Punch a pillow
4. Draw a messy, ugly drawing of them and burn it, imagine their going up in flames. ( Burn baby, burn)
5. Maybe even write about all those things you wish you had told them, all those, "Bad words," every detail. But make sure you then burn it, because it would be horrible if it got out and then you would end up the bad guy. 
6. If you have a ball through it and imagine the ball has the persons face on it. But my favourite, when it comes to a ball and anger, is baseball. A bat and a ball, can do wonders with the anger we hold. But it can work with any sport with a ball and a bat.
7. For some it helps to run it off, I  proffer to swimming and let the frustration flow off through the water. 
8. A friend once told me,  that when you go to the beach, and the waves about to crash, you smash into them and image its them. She said this was a really good technique to use, and it may just work for you.
9. If you have a dart board, I have seen a lot of people get a picture of that person, or even your own drawing and through darts. 
10. Finally for most people out there, because lets just face it, we all have those haters, and sometimes they just don't stop. You confront the person, hopefully after you have told them to stop before. When you confront it is in a civilised cool manner, like you are totally fine and nothing is worrying or hurting you. You talk, without using your hands, and put those haters/hater in their place. Not raising your voice, trying to use as many less, "bad words," as possible. 

You may think these few things of getting rid of anger is a twisted, cruel and maybe horrible list and that I shouldn't be posting it on my blog. Because anger is bad for us. 

Well, maybe anger is bad for us, but that's when we hold on to it, till it ends up taking control. This list isn't about how to hold on to it, it's a list about how to release it before any damage is done, and it also means nobody gets hurt, including you. 

Lately I have been very angry at a person I love, she hurt me pretty bad. But the thing is, I was just holding on to the anger, and then it became all I thought about. 

Anger its self is not good for us, but when your in control and have the attitude to be the "bigger man," then your all good. You can also have some fun with it, so maybe anger isn't to good for us, but I'll let you make your own decision of that...

Till next time

xoxo

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

Once upon an Easter

Easter has come upon us once again. 

For most children around the world, they will be waking up in a frenzy of excitement, as one of their favourite holiday characters, has come and delivered them bundles of yummy joy.

The others out there say, they're just too old, and stop "believing," but still want those yummy eggs.  But my question is, when did they stop believing?

Do you know remember when you stopped believing in fairy tales? 

Do you remember when you had a dream and believed that it would come true one day?

These days I feel that a lot people just want to crush our dreams. Push us down to make themselves feel better. This act is a trait that mostly everyone has, but some over use it.

After a while of always being told, shown or being convinced that your dreams are not in reach, or that you don't deserve it, you start to not believe anymore.

But its kind of a two way street, we are the ones who chose if these haters are going to get to us. We are the ones who have to stand our ground, and fight for our dreams and beliefs. I totally understand thats it's not that simple, because it's not. But after a while it gets easier, like anything in life.

So are you standing your ground this Easter?

Their your dreams, and you deserve to make them come true...

I hope your have a wonderful Easter and start to believe again.

Till next time 

xoxo

The Girl With The Red Shoes

The Future?

While working on my blog at the moment, I've been starting to think of what could happen in my future, and the direction of the blog. 

For some, the future can be a scary thing to face, as they fear the unknown. 

For others, they are in a hurry to get to the new things that await them, and don't focus on the now. 

Then there are the people who just don't want anything to change, and sometimes aren't prepared, they let their ego get the better of them. 

Through my life so far I have been all these types of people. But the thing is in life we're not supposed to know what is going to happen. Yes, we can try, achieve and focus on things that we want to happen. But we never know what is around the next corner.

I once watched this ballet movie, and it showed me how things can be taken away in an instance. Most great ballerina's train their whole life, like any athlete, to be the best. To end up working for a company. But in an instance, one wrong move and their life work can be taken away, normally for life. In this one move the girl lent on her foot just slightly different, she had been doing this same move most of her life, and then snap, her ankle broke. 

She could have easily given up, and said my career is over, no more dancing for me. But she didn't. She trained to regain her strength and get better. Then in the end, she became one of the best. I know that it isn't exactly reality. For some people they actually don't have a choice, but most do.

Life can take things from us so easily, but it's our choice. We are the ones who have to chose, with what to do with what life has handed us. 

So which person are you?


If your the person who is afraid of the unknown. It comes around anyway and instead of being scared maybe just try to look forward to it. 

Same for the people who don't want change, it's going to happen but it's your choice if your going to make it a smooth journey or a rocky ones. 

Also for those eager ones out there, I just recommend living in the moment, enjoying life.

So for now, I can't wait to see what happens to my blog and also my future. But I'm just going to enjoy life right now, and deal with whats to come when it decides to appear. 

Till next time

xoxo

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

My first post...

As this is my first blog I would love to start off with telling you why I thought 'The Girl With The Red Shoes' was the most appropriate name for my blog. 

Firstly, as this blog is anonymous I couldn't exactly just say my name because, obviously, that's a secret... 

But the reason is because to me red shoes symbolise strength, fun and attitude. It may be just me, but when you see a woman wearing red shoes most of them seem to be confident, like the shoes were empowering them. I don't know if it's the colour that brings the magic and the passion, but to me, they make me feel both of those things...

I read a quote from a blog today about a man's theory about red shoes. Monsieur Loubontin says he makes the soles of his shoes red because, "They attract men, the way a bull is attracted to a red cape."  

It is a very interesting quote, because yes it relates to men... But I think its more that you stand out from the crowd, and for me, I think I fit into the category of standing out from the norm. 

Also, with this amazing invention and colour you don't just get the confidence and attitude but you get a whole lot of fun, because when you feel good in your own skin, what can stop you from achieving the enjoyment you need?  Because isn't that what life is supposed to be about, and we deserve it, everybody does. 

So I thought, 'The Girl With The Red Shoes' was the best choice because in life we need the strength to push through those challenges that can be the smallest issues, to the issues where you feel like there is no hope left in the world. 

But also with the attitude, which we desperately need. Because without it, what are you going to do when that person or issues just keeps pushing you down, over and over again? You need to stand up and just say, NO. NO MORE. You are in control of your own life. 


So from now on, if you remember, why couldn't we wear our imaginary red shoes, or even our real ones everyday and feel good? So, through these blogs I'm going to write things that have happened in my life or even random things for that matter. Because my goal is if I can help at least one person in the slightest way, I will be so happy. Because when you read my story, you will understand why I say, nobody should go through anything I did... 

This is my first blog and I can't wait for the rest...

till next time,

xoxo

The Girl With The Red Shoes