EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

I thought I first should start off by a apologising for not writing last week. My life at the moment has just been crazy and honestly I haven't been in the best writing mood. But I hope you have had an amazing week and that you took each day with great stride.

A lot has happen this week for me, things that where good and other things that weren't so good. It was the of learning and reconfirming my belief that everything happens for a reason. No matter how painful or ordinary the situation was it had to happened for some reason, if for learning or reconfirming, it was meant to happen. There was many situations this week with not only becoming OK with where my body was at illness wise, but also coming to terms with a situation and relationship I had had.

At the start of the week I was so lost with everything that was happening, the progress I had been making was starting to come crashing down. We found out that physically my body was still doing its old pattern of not coping, and my adrenals were just basically shot. I didn't take the news so well and I just became more frustrated and stressed.

Then in the process of all this a situation that I had had rose to a for front, and people instantly jumped to conclusions on the matter. People started judging from left right and centre and I had no idea how it had happened. This is where I would like to make my point and something I would like you to try in your daily life.

Everyone is going through their own journey, battles and learnings. We all have our ways of coping and there is always a reason for what we are doing, no matter how much we say there is no reason. 

There is always a reason for why that girl parties to much, or sleeps around. There is a reason for why that guy is angry and a real jerk. There is a reason why that guy cheated on that girl. There is reason for why that guy or girl is so serious. There is a reason for why that girl wears makeup. There is a reason for everything but we instantly make up our own conclusions, judgements and labels on the matter.

But what would happen if we took a step back and thought you know what there is a reason for why this happened or is happening. Lets take the situation of why she sleeps around so much, there is so many reasons for why this can be happening, ones that you wouldn't instantly consider. She could just feel really lonely and likes the attention. She could be really self-conscious and wanting to feel wanted. She could be dealing with so many things at home and within herself, that she just wants to escape. She also just could not know what is right or wrong, because thats just what people around her do.

Do you see that when you take the step back you start to see that there is a lot more happening in this situation, then your judgement of just saying she's a slut or whatever you would call her. Yes most of time we instantly want to judge the matter if it is our business or not. But what if you did take that step back? Would you judge the situation the same way? This is such a little thing but can make the biggest difference, and honestly save someone a lot of suffering. This doesn't make the situation nor right nor wrong, it just is what it is.

So this week I had to take a step back from my life and everything that was happening, and it did help quite a lot. Yes, I have to also admit yoga helped too but taking that little step back made a huge difference. I started to feel a sense of peace about everything that had happened, and was at peace with the situation I had with another person. So I ask you now where are you doing this in your life, where you are making the judgements? Could you perhaps just take a step back? If you were to take the step back would it change how you see the situation? But also just remember no matter what, its nor right, nor wrong, it just is what it is. 

I hope you enjoyed this piece, and that you do apply this simple but life altering technique.

Keep smiling

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

Ps. Sorry if there was any errors :)