EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

I thought I first should start off by a apologising for not writing last week. My life at the moment has just been crazy and honestly I haven't been in the best writing mood. But I hope you have had an amazing week and that you took each day with great stride.

A lot has happen this week for me, things that where good and other things that weren't so good. It was the of learning and reconfirming my belief that everything happens for a reason. No matter how painful or ordinary the situation was it had to happened for some reason, if for learning or reconfirming, it was meant to happen. There was many situations this week with not only becoming OK with where my body was at illness wise, but also coming to terms with a situation and relationship I had had.

At the start of the week I was so lost with everything that was happening, the progress I had been making was starting to come crashing down. We found out that physically my body was still doing its old pattern of not coping, and my adrenals were just basically shot. I didn't take the news so well and I just became more frustrated and stressed.

Then in the process of all this a situation that I had had rose to a for front, and people instantly jumped to conclusions on the matter. People started judging from left right and centre and I had no idea how it had happened. This is where I would like to make my point and something I would like you to try in your daily life.

Everyone is going through their own journey, battles and learnings. We all have our ways of coping and there is always a reason for what we are doing, no matter how much we say there is no reason. 

There is always a reason for why that girl parties to much, or sleeps around. There is a reason for why that guy is angry and a real jerk. There is a reason why that guy cheated on that girl. There is reason for why that guy or girl is so serious. There is a reason for why that girl wears makeup. There is a reason for everything but we instantly make up our own conclusions, judgements and labels on the matter.

But what would happen if we took a step back and thought you know what there is a reason for why this happened or is happening. Lets take the situation of why she sleeps around so much, there is so many reasons for why this can be happening, ones that you wouldn't instantly consider. She could just feel really lonely and likes the attention. She could be really self-conscious and wanting to feel wanted. She could be dealing with so many things at home and within herself, that she just wants to escape. She also just could not know what is right or wrong, because thats just what people around her do.

Do you see that when you take the step back you start to see that there is a lot more happening in this situation, then your judgement of just saying she's a slut or whatever you would call her. Yes most of time we instantly want to judge the matter if it is our business or not. But what if you did take that step back? Would you judge the situation the same way? This is such a little thing but can make the biggest difference, and honestly save someone a lot of suffering. This doesn't make the situation nor right nor wrong, it just is what it is.

So this week I had to take a step back from my life and everything that was happening, and it did help quite a lot. Yes, I have to also admit yoga helped too but taking that little step back made a huge difference. I started to feel a sense of peace about everything that had happened, and was at peace with the situation I had with another person. So I ask you now where are you doing this in your life, where you are making the judgements? Could you perhaps just take a step back? If you were to take the step back would it change how you see the situation? But also just remember no matter what, its nor right, nor wrong, it just is what it is. 

I hope you enjoyed this piece, and that you do apply this simple but life altering technique.

Keep smiling

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

Ps. Sorry if there was any errors :)

VALENTINES DAY, LONELY NO MORE

As Valentines days draws near and peoples hopes come true I want to remind the lonely ones that your dreams can come true too.

The people that know me well, know whenever there is something to celebrate I always want to do it with a bang. So as Valentines day is only six days away I utterly exited to celebrate. Though I have no loved one (cough. cough Boyfriend) I am surrounded by people I love and that is who I'm going to celebrate with, and share my love. Yes originally Valentines day is know as a day to consummate, share and have a reason to buy roses, chocolate, rings, have sex and whatever others do on Valentines day. But it is also a day and a reason out of all the other 364 days in a year to share love and love others.

A thing my friend said is that she didn't want to celebrate it or feel the need to because it just in her mind stated that she was a lone and not with anyone. I know that this is probably also the case for many, many others. But have no fear I have a reminder for you that you also have friends who probably are in the same boat or that you can celebrate with, and if you feel like you have no friends then you have family.

So why not make a day of it buy chocolate and share with friends, have your own dance party, buy yourself roses, remind your friends and loved ones how much you appreciate and love them. Don't make it a day to pity yourself for being alone, have fun with it and share the love around, because everyone always needs some loving in their life.

So you may be wondering what I'm doing on this Friday coming, well I have school but I plan to remind all my friends how much I appreciate them and love them, have a lunch time filled with chocolate and lollies. Then go see a movie with a few friends and just have an amazing time.

So what are you going to do? Are you going to sit at home, stuff your face with chocolate and pity yourself for not having a valentine, which I have to say is that persons loss. Or are you going to go and have a great time, with your boyfriend/girlfriend, friends, family or even yourself? Its up to you how you spend your time. You only have so many hours, days, weeks in a year and in your life time and wouldn't you want to spend everyday filled to the max with amazing goodness? So my last reminder  to you is to be open to the possibilities of all the things that this day could hold and just share the love.

Keep Smiling

Till next time

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes 

THE WEEK OF CHANGES (Warning it is long)

I wanted to dedicate this blog to the people that have been my life and are no longer, and the others that still are. People around us are the ones who shape us, they can change your life in the greatest way or the worst, but they are still there in your life for a reason, no matter what the circumstance is.

This week has been a life changing week for me in so many ways. Not only did I start Grade 11 but I also let go of two significant relationships in my life, made some hard life changing decisions and finally learnt to love accept myself for who I am through the whole process.

At the start of the week I was defiantly not in the best place mindset wise or friend wise. I had come to the point were I had to let two of my friends go in my life, and at first I was confused and in denial. These two relationships were very significant in my life and for a long time I had been holding onto them for dear life. But it came to the point were the friendship wasn't benefiting both parties and I had to accept the fact that I just needed to let it go. It wasn't easy but you probably have experienced something similar in your life so far, as many others do.

I know lately I have been writing a lot about acceptance and accepting through love, and thats because it is such a huge lesson that we all go through and one that I had been trying to understand  for a long time. So you may be wondering how did I come to the fact of actually expecting myself fully to the point were I'm writing about it. Well thats is a interesting story...

My friend said something to me while she was expressing how she was feeling and that was that I was selfish and that I put everything onto others and my friends. If its true or not thats besides the point. But I didn't take it as her being mean or anything, because that wasn't her fault she was just expressing how she was feeling. But the thing is that the negative side of my subconscious grabbed onto to these words expressed and sent me into a downward spiral of negative self talk. I kept saying to myself, how could I be so selfish and do this to my friends then I went onto saying that I'm a bad friend, I'm selfish, I feel so guilty, I can't believe I'm putting my friends through all this, etc... But the thing is that wasn't her fault at all thats just how I handled it and took it on.

But I think if it weren't for her saying those things then I wouldn't have come to the point of acceptance about myself that I have. Yeah sure she maybe could have said it a little nicer or differently, but everything happens for a reason and its ok.

So anyway I came to a point after crying, hysteria/delusion and then sleep, that I finally decided that who am is ok, and what others think about me is none of my business.  Seems simple when I write it but I didn't just wake up and think oh I accept who I am. I had been told for years how to accept myself, this week though one of my mentors told a simple enough line about just being ok with who you are.

I think how I fully took on what he said was because I had been developing and had started to become better, and was ready to move forward that I really heard the message this time. It was almost like a veil was just lifted and that I finally was able to see for the first time.

I didn't care what my body looked like, I just knew I needed to improve for myself. Thinking what people think about me is now none of my business. Going through what I went through is now ok because I far better off then if I didn't go through it.

I can't fully explain how I feel in words, but what this proves is that from every situation, moment, circumstance something comes from it. Also at the start of the week I was fully hating myself and thinking that I couldn't live another day with feeling lonely and not wanted, but now I feel better then I have ever felt. It's amazing how a single moment, day, week, month can totally change your life around.

I know this blog is long and if you have made it to this sentence then thank you for reading and putting in the time to read my blog. If your a friend of mine or no longer a friend, or whatever you have been in my life I want to thank you because every single time you are in my life you are adding, shaping me and I'm also learning. If you just a reader and don't know me then please know how much I appreciate you reading this. My mission in life is to help people, it may be a little hard sometimes or  some people may have their opinions, but even if just writing my advice and experiences and you take something from it that helps you that would be amazing.


I hope you enjoyed this blog

Till next time

XOXO

The Girl With The Red Shoes  

PS. I really want to start doing some fun blogs so if you have any ideas please let me know :)